Tuesday, October 02, 2007


Excellent entry over on Magistramater's Xanga site about friendship. It's actually about the duties and sins of equals, but she uses it regarding friends. Some good thoughts.

The friend issue has always been an interesting one to me--i guess we all have different expectations when it comes to friends, but for me the best friendships have been the reciprocal ones. That, to me, speaks to the two sided give and take of a relationship where neither person is always giving and the other always taking. Strengths and weaknesses can be spoken of, we can help each other grow, that sort of thing. We can have coffee, do crafts, or just be silly and laugh. It doesn't always take a lot.


Dana in Georgia said...

Stopping by from Magistramater, I'd like to say *hello* and copy down that C S Lewis quote.

It's from which work?

julia said...

Hi, Dana! Thanks for stopping by! i'm (mildly) ashamed to say i don't know which work that's from--i latched onto the quote when my friend was dying of cancer and would say "I just want my life back--" i needed to remind myself that everything we go through IS our life, and it's helped me since.

i'll see if i can find which work it's from. Hope you drop by again!

julia said...

Found this at http://girltalk.blogs.com/girltalk/2005/06/interruptions.html

“The great thing, if one can, is to stop regarding all the unpleasant things as interruptions of one’s ‘own,’ or ‘real’ life. The truth is of course that what one calls the interruptions are precisely one’s real life—the life God is sending one day by day; what one calls one’s ‘real life’ is a phantom of one’s own imagination. This at least is what I see at moments of insight: but it’s hard to remember it all the time.”

—The Letters of C. S. Lewis to Arthur Greeves (20 December 1943), para. 5, p. 499; quoted in The Quotable Lewis, (Wheaton, Ill.: Tyndale House Publishers, 1989), 335.

limbolady said...

I remember when I was younger (21 to be exact) I had a friend who told me she felt I was always taking and never giving. That really stung, but it has stayed with me all these years. I used to have to work at trying to ask about the other person's life, till now it comes fairly naturally. (Of course, the fact that I am extremely curious doesn't hurt, either!).

julia said...

Ahh, my Limbolady friend, who is the Kravitz now? ;-)